GET YOUR EX BACK

Get your Ex back? Why would anyone want to do that, there is a reason why they became an ex in the first instance and only dogs happen to go back to their vomit. Plus, there are  over 3 billion people to choose from. Over 3 billion? Well but you would have to exclude all those that are married, of a different language, that you would never meet in your lifetime even on dating sites, that are old and about to die, that are young and still live with their parents, that are in serious relationships, that are celibates, that are gay(if you are straight) , that are not worth your salt, that don’t have the same interest or clearly laid down goals, that don’t fit into your life. That leaves you with about 20 people down from 3 billion. Chances are one of them is  your ex but that is still not enough reason to get your ex back considering the fact that there  are 19 others except all of them have become exes, or you have come to the realization that you are a pain in the groin, and you are the cause of the broken relationship and that you would never find another since you have flipped through all your 19 possible spouses or you are beginning to have sleepless nights and losing balance like a crack addict. Then maybe you need to get your ex back. But how?

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First ,you have to put into consideration what caused the rift in the first place, that is what would guarantee any step you take to get your ex back. Is there another person in the picture?, Does your ex really love you or loved you at one time or the other or where you simply building your castles in the air? Are there underlying conditions that  caused the separation that might hinder a reunion.

The most effective step to take in order to get your ex back is to act like you don’t really care. Go ahead and deceive yourself that, you are  completely fine without your ex, if you appear needy and your frantic steps are made known to your ex, you might end up in a relationship where you would be constantly taken for granted and you would have no hold whatsoever on your ex or relationship,even worse, is you might be taken for a ride and this might add insult to injury. So the desperate calls in the middle of the night crying and yelling to get them back or the millions of text messages would only make you look stupid and make your ex pat himself or herself on the back for dodging a bullet.

To get your ex back you need to

1. Relax: 

This is probably the most difficult thing to do when you are still in love with your ex and you believe if you don’t act fast , you might forever lose your ex. But in most cases , it is better to first relax and weigh the relationship.  what caused it to crash?, how would you prevent it from further crash if you ever get back together?, What are your mistakes and how would you apologize and correct them? What are the traits and short comings of your ex that you have to stop fighting over?, Why do you want the relationship back, is it for some selfish or stupid reason like, “ I can’t live without him”, “ I just don’t want to be alone”, “ I’m a sucker for love and all things love”etc.

In some cases , you would need to ask your friends and colleagues who know you to  advise you on what you had been doing wrong, or what unconscious killer impression you had been giving your spouse that  made them hit the road. If the break up was due to some wrong action of yours, you have to come to terms with it and understand why you acted in such manner in order to get your ex back.

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 Do you need to seek counseling, go for therapy, develop self esteem or read some Nicholas sparks books?. In this moment of relaxation, you would invariably come to understand that you would get your ex back if only they wanted to come back and if they don’t , you would be fine without them. You need to relax and figure out some of these things when you intend to get your ex back.

It's all coming back to me now.

2. Strategize: 

To get your ex back , you have to have a plan, it is not enough to just read lifestyle articles and “ get your ex back” manuals because they are actually a lot of them. You have to devise a plan.

" Tell your daughter to complain about you not taking her to a Taylor swift concert and letting the new "jump off"" hear it and volunteer, then call your husband and tell him that your sockets  and bulbs are out and bring out a photo album with his best wine and cuisine and talk about the fun memories, but be careful not to start a fire”.( Desperate Housewives, Season 8,Ep 18)..

It is basically about coming to terms with what made your relationship spark in the first instance and devoting a lot of time and energy without appearing needy or desperate to reignite those traits, moments, attributes, characters, appearances and what not. While also creating an avenue where you ex can be aware of such improvements, like former meeting places, restaurants, activities and all. The desperate update on Instagram and Facebook however foils this motive, including the dumbed down tweets  which in most cases is a masked cry for help.

Here i am, strategizing on how to get my foul mouthed ex back for good.

3. Get busy: 

To get your ex back, you need to get busy, make yourself happy and find your inner energy and strength to reignite the attraction. Don’t however be enveloped with the urge to reinvent yourself, shave your hair, and use Nicki minaj wigs , or start wearing hammer pants or listening to metal ( if that was not your niche)  just to make a statement. This would further chase your ex away, and this would contradict the step number 2 which is to improve on your strengths.

Swimming in a pool of Liquor won't bring her back , you dumb ass.

4. Wait:

 To get your ex back, you have to wait a while to make your getting back together natural, anything done too fast , fails in the end. Wait and learn from your strategies,  don’t be hasty to respond to a booty call, a family appearance or an impromptu date. Take things easy, let the relationship find new ground and build up again. Don’t start the relationship where you left off, going back to the same old routines. There is a reason why it failed in the first instance. Learn from the elements.

This is just a desperate cry for a booty call.

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5. Take Action: 

To get your ex back, after you have relaxed, strategized, gotten busy and waited, take action. Don’t be scared to make a phone call, send a text message , arrange a meeting, send a gift, be seen. The success of this last step would be determined by how well you have carried out the previous steps. If the desired result is not attained, go back to step one again but know when to let it go, if it is not happening. In such cases you would have to read how to get over your ex instead.Now go and bring that hardheaded piece of matter where he or she belongs- in your arms.

Get on your knees! You Asshole!

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MALE GENITAL ODOR: BOXERS OR BRIEFS

Choosing the right underwear is very important in preventing  male genital odor and also as a fashion statement . Today, fashion has become an increasingly important factor in men's lives, and purchasing the right male underwear is a choice that might require some more thought and discretion.Male genital odor or female genital odor is mostly caused by moisture and dirt trapped in the genital region, an underwear that keeps moisture and air trapped without any form of ventilation would increase male genital odor. Men’s underwear can be classified into four. Briefs, Boxer briefs, Boxers and Thongs.

Briefs

BRIEFS

Briefs are a type of short, fitted  underwear as opposed to styles where the material extends down the legs. Briefs hold the male's genitals in a relatively fixed position, making  briefs a popular  choice for men who are participating in athletic activities, sitting for long hours or who feel they need more support than loose-fitting underwear can provide. In addition, boxers mostly roll  up the body when the wearer runs. Briefs often feature a fly - a covered opening on the front of the underwear allowing for convenience at urinals.

Even though a lot of men couldn't care less about the underwear fly.There are several different fly designs available,  such as the standard vertical fly, the horizontal fly, and the y-front fly. The use of a fly is optional, and many styles do not utilize a fly at all .  Most briefs are made of cotton, which even though they keep the genitals in place, they also help to absorb moisture that prevent male genital odor. Men who wear briefs are also believed to be dependable, trustworthy  with traditional values.Low rise briefs
are actually more preferable to high rise briefs because they enclose a smaller area of the body and absorb moisture from this limited area.Tight briefs have been blamed for negatively affecting the sperm count, since they may interfere with the cooling of the testes.There is a reduction in living sperm due to heat, but healthy sperm output is not affected. 

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Boxer Briefs

BOXER BRIEFS

Boxer briefs (or tight boxers) are a type of men's underwear which are long in the leg, like boxer shorts but tighter-fitting, like briefs; a hybrid between the two main types of male underwear . .A pouch or "over sized" pouch may be built in to add space and position the testicles forward and give the penis more room .Unlike briefs, boxer briefs do not usually have the tight elastic around the legs. They rely more on the overall elasticity of the fabric for support, making the leg openings more comfortable. The overall elasticity of the boxer briefs however reduce the absorbent nature of the underwear and since most of them are not made of cotton also reduces any form of ventilation that briefs affords the genitals. These can result in male genital odor.

Boxers

BOXERS

 Boxers are the very loose knickers which are now the most common, it is very loose and has room but is not suitable for athletic activities as it doesn't hold the organ in shape The looseness helps air circulation but limits moisture absorption.

Thongs

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THONGS

Thongs barely cover any thing and they seem to get the highest points for male genital odor prevention. It is like going commando but still putting on something.The ones that are made from cotton are the best. They also have a way of making your butt bigger. Most of them come in porous materials for air circulation or sensual cuts in the front and since the material is barely there, there is usually no moisture due to heat in that region. If you are risqué enough then slap on the thongs .Brazilian Thongs
take the gold in the world of Male thongs. Some also come as simply male genital pouch
just for the male genital covering.

The ultimate rule for choice of underwear is to find one that is not only comfortable but loose enough for the balls to breathe and tight and absorbent enough for moisture absorption to prevent male genital odor. . Another important precaution against male genital odor is not to repeat the use of an underwear no matter how short you used it .If this whole article sounds like crap then free balling is your thing. 

This is a sexy stylish way of freeballing.

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8 KINDS OF HUSBANDS (THAT SHOULD HIT THE ROAD)

Okay, now you've had a fairy tale wedding, everyone was present and happy and the band was excellent. The food was exquisite and the whole show of doom went without a hitch.You have been looking forward to enjoying your marital bliss for the rest of your life but unfortunately you discover that you are stuck with these kinds of husbands. If you were in the least sensitive , you would have seen all the early  signs that the relationship was doomed from the start, but you ignorantly gave yourself the benefit of the doubt, based on some dumbed down story your grand mother told you. It’s time for a rain check, when you have to slip in Miranda Lambert's broken heart and figure out exactly what next to do  with your life, if you are in a relationship with these kinds of husbands. The irony about these kinds of husbands is that based on research, they are the ones ladies love to be with, nice guys mostly finish last. Ladies are usually turned on by impulsivity, extroversion,  callousness , narcissim and apathy when they come in small doses according to Peter Jonason.

1. ROLLING STONE: 

These kinds of husbands are on a journey and no one is coming along with them. They are like action heros in action movies picking up girls at gas stations. They perch awhile and then hit the road. Your whole marriage is a five- ten year stand as against a one night stand and then he would be on to the next one. He would want to get another job, move to another part of town, change his name, acquire some form of mid-life crisis and generally metamorphose into another being. The early signs usually abound. Yesterday he wanted to run the marathon, today he wants to go to medical school, tomorrow he is off to the military with interest in bounty hunting. The girls also come in handy at all point of indecision. If you are ready to live your life running away from yourself then hitch up a ride with this kind of husband. Otherwise, let him hit the road, take his fast car and keep on driving.

Look into his eyes and you can tell he is never coming back

2. ONE FOR ALL: 

These kinds of husbands are like public toilets, they take the neighbour’s wife to get her groceries, they give all their time to other women. Everybody calls them up to use them, they give the best advice to other people but they never seem to practice what they preach. There is nothing bad in being available for the community but when it is done to the detriment of his immediate family, then there is a problem.  The early signs are always there, cancelling a date because he has volunteered to look after his boss’s kids, never giving anyone close to him priority but living for outsiders. This kind of husband has to hit the road, you are better off being an outsider to this kind of husband than being the one who notice him change to somebody else around everyone else.

Always willing to lend a hand when the same hand is needed at home

3. SWEET POISON: 

This kind of husband is the type that would save you in a fire when the firemen have given up on you only for you to discover the fire was originally caused by people he had scores to settle with. He loves you with the little piece of his heart that he has left but  being in his life is like being on a battlefield in  love and war, making love on landmines. You need this kind of husband in small doses or you might die of an overdose. The only time you would feel  safe and be at peace is when you know where he actually is - in a box down the river. The premarital signs were obvious but you somehow closed your eyes to the fear in his eyes, the fact that  you never accurately knew where he was or where he was going. The fact that you felt some things were guy stuff and that it should be out of bounds to ladies. The many complexities and unanswered questions. The good thing about this kind of husband is that when he hits the road , he might leave behind a stash  of cash.

This guy is my boyfriend and he is missing, he was last seen at the gas station
picking up a hitchhiker.

4. DRAGON:

 This kind of husband is an abuser, he disrespects everyone and then you. He is violent, abusive both physically, emotionally, verbally and what not. He sees his partner as a subordinate whose existence is at his mercies. The early signs where the tantrums and fights he threw constantly which seemed to exclude you until it did. This is the kind of man that is so nice to you yet so obnoxious and rude to the waiter, the driver, the plumber or the milkman.This kind of husband might not hit the road until your body is in a thrash bag, especially if he is alcoholic, so in most cases it is advised to hit the road on his behalf.

Just Hit the road or Hit the megaphone.

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5. GOOD  FOR NOTHING: 

This kind of husband may be good in bed, thanks to the tons upon tons of pornographic materials he has consumed that has wired his mind to be a sex machine and nothing else. He knows how to take you to cloud 9 but then he leaves you there, when the bills are unpaid, the plumbing is undone and communication is completely zero. He is more interested in sliding in through the “back door”, than actually changing the broken knob on the front door of the house and bringing another one with him for a threesome. This kind of husband soon leaves you high and dry. He is more of a booty call, than a husband.Your goals are intimidating to him and he finds your drive and motivation to life disturbing.You are constantly burdened with the thought of letting go of your goals and ambition to be with him. This kind of husband should hit the road and pick the change on the shelf outside while he is at it. Keep his number though, sometimes he might just be the only one to call when the weather gets cold.

Of course, he would do it again.

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6. PARASITE: 

This kind of husband is in it for something, that is completely selfish and narcissistic . A job , a business deal, a bed space, a hot bath . There is a name for them , gold diggers. In some cases, they may not be literally digging for financial gain but much more. If you are in the market for a kept man then why not ? but if you want the good ole traditional marriage that our grandparents had, then the parasite has to walk.

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7. BABY: 

This kind of husband seems to have had his growth and maturity process short circuited by something we all never seem to understand. His partner feels more like his parent than his spouse. Spouses of these kinds of husbands always feel like they are married to themselves and are all by themselves, as they literally have to hold the sword while their sissy little man fumbles with the torch. These kinds of husbands are usually stingy , needy and obnoxious and in some cases seem to be mummy’s boy who never grew up to grow a pair. You should have seen the signs when his mama took over the whole wedding preparation but you were too blind to see beyond your nose. This kind of husband needs to hit the road to summer camp until he learns where the wild things are.

Say hello to my baby daddy, it's 1 pm in the afternoon by the way.

8. CHEATER: 

This  kind of husband always likes to get things fixed, even when they are not broken. He seems to enjoy the double life, he really doesn't know what he wants and thinks on the short term. You should have seen the early signs in his eyes. You won the battle over so many others to get him to put a ring on it and thought you can immediately retire and enjoy your marital bliss only to discover that you haven’t begun to contend in the war. This kind of husband should hit the road and not come back.

Another kind of cheater is the husband who cheats on  you with the same sex. 
. If your husband just left and he falls in this category then he probably read this blog , if he doesn't fall in any of these categories then you have to go get him.However if you think he needs to hit the road,you wouldn't be wise enough to base your decisions on something you read on a blog without further reading. The only thing dumber than making a hasty decision is making no decision at all.

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MALE GENITAL ODOR DUE TO BALANITIS

Male genital odor can sometimes be as a result of Balanitis. If fishy smell of the penis is accompanied by inflammation of the glans penis, then there is a very high probability that the person in question is suffering from balanitis. The glans penis is the rounded head,( the tip) of the penis. If this fishy smell is accompanied by redness of the foreskin, redness of the penis, other rashes on the head of the penis, foul smelling discharge from the penis and painful foreskin and penis and you somehow happen to be under 4 years of age then that noxious smell oozing out of the male genitals just might be as a result of  Balanitis. 

Balanitis are mostly common among uncircumcised boys under 4 years although it  occurs in adults too. According to statistics Balanitis occurs in approximately 1 in every 25 boys and 1 in 30 uncircumcised males at some time in their life. Male genital odor due to Balanitis is very rare among circumcised adult males.

Balanitis can be caused by a host of issues. Such as irritation by environmental substances, physical trauma ,infection by a wide variety of pathogens such as bacteria, virus, sexually transmitted diseases and the fungus such as candida, the same one which causes male genital thrush  and irritation to the penis from chemicals that exist  in condoms, lubricants and spermicides, detergents, fabric conditioners and perfumed soaps , shower gels etc.

Diabetes can make Balanitis more likely,especially if the blood sugar is poorly controlled. This would make glucose appear in the urine which might get trapped in the fore skin and help bacteria to multiply quickly.

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Male genital odour due to balanitis can be prevented by proper cleaning of the penis. The cleaning of the penis  cannot be over emphasized. The foreskin should be retracted so that the glans penis is exposed when washing. The  male genitals should be washed gently with mild water and not soaps, mild male genital products  such as Bluemoore Intimate wash  might come in handy. Male genital should be dry before replacing the foreskin, so that no moisture is trapped. Washing the male genital after sex would also go a long way  to prevent Balanitis. A condition called phimosis in which the foreskin is too tight to be pulled back leading to the entrapment of moisture and sweat and urine might also lead to Balanitis. In such cases, a doctor has to be consulted. 

To be sure that a particular male genital  odour is due to Balanitis you would need to undergo a blood test to determine glucose levels, urine tests in case of diabetes and a swab of the glans penis would be taken to be analysed for infection. Balanitis might also in some cases be a symptom of other skin conditions like psoriasis, dermatitis, eczema and lichen planus. In eliminating male genital odour, it is pertinent to know the cause of such and take appropriate precautions.

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LETTER FROM A MISTRESS

The Mistress

Hello, Wives of our Lovers. We, Mistresses don't intentionally go hunting for your husbands, we meet them like you meet people everyday, through friends, at the supermarket, at work functions ,hell even on the side of the road. We don't always know from the get go the man is married because a lot of these brothers don't wear rings or come with a stamp saying "taken". Half the time ,he's alone, there's no trace of you, even in his car! It takes a well trained eye to spot traces of another woman, e.g seatbelt perfume, weave strands, hair oil on the headrest, etc.

My job as a mistress in your relationship is to give him a break from reality, yes, you and the kids are real but so are the bills and school fees and work stress. I'm where he de-stresses. I, the mistress know my place, trust me I do, I know to keep quiet when you call while we are together. 

I know not to spend on his credit card but to ask for cash, all this is to protect you, yes ,you, from pain, humiliation and suffering, I get a tired frustrated man and send you a well rested happy man, thank me, don't disrespect the mistress for it! Calling me won't change the fact that my clothes are expensive and my car is paid off, it won't change the fact that my university fees are paid and I get to go to the weekend conferences or boy's nights out, swearing at me won't change the fact that he grabs my headboard while he rocks my world and screams like a girl, something you probably don't even know about the man you married.

You  don't know the effort we put behind our little rendezvous just to keep your pudgy Bottom happy, and feeling secure.

Trust me, the mistress the more you come after me the more he wants me, the more money he spends on me, the more intense our sessions get.

A true mistress will never ask him to leave you, instead she encourages him to stay with you even if you have messed up badly.

We never consider getting pregnant out of fear of having to deal with your sour face for the rest of our lives. So relax, your kids are priority numero uno, even to us, we pick out the toys and clothes he shows up with, we encourage bonding time.

Consider yourself lucky if you find my number,saved in his male co-worker's or boss's name, at least you know he's taken care of when you  are tired, and he's gonna come right back once we done re-furbishing my apartment. Oh and trust me, I do the fighting for us, its my job to make sure its just us two, any others will be dealt with severely by me, so don't ruin your manicure, I get a weekly one so its okay, let me do it.

I respect you, hence I stay away from family functions and make sure I take all my stuff out of the car when I was there,

I don't call after he's left the office because I know its your turn.

I, the mistress have my own things, the rest is just a bonus for having a kind and sharing attitude, I'm a professional with a great job and earn enough, I don't have time to tend to a full time relationship, not that i have one anyway  hence i don't mind being the mistress and  I don't mind when he goes home to you.

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My advice to you wifey is to  stay in your home, and don't pack your stuff and go tell your mom how you failed at being a wife, it just makes you look silly and weak and our man needs strong women around him. Look after your kids, tend to your home, cook those hearty meals you are so famous for, I can't cook with these nails. Don't ask about me, he's just going to lie and toss and turn in bed thinking about me in my Victoria secret set he bought me for valentines day.As you know, the mistress always gets the sexy stuff. Let me be, I will leave on my own accord one day, when i get tired of being his mistress.

If you don't we might just  trade places and you are going to blame  everyone but yourself for taking his heart from you. I don't intend to, I would rather spend my time and money on expensive holidays with our man. Truth is, I make him feel good, I'm a reminder of when he was young and I do all the things you are afraid to do, or just won't do because you believe you are past that, I'm forever young and I compliment him, you suit him, trust me honey, there is a huge difference.

I respect marriage and all it stands for, that's why I'm doing my part to help yours stay together, so don't think just because i'm a mistress I don't, I respect the nice thing you have done and I love your kids too much to hurt them. Don't cry over me, or what we do, let it be, play your part and I will do what I'm supposed to do.

Yours (and your mans)

The Hot Lady who lives across your street.


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THE PREGNANT WOMAN AND HER HUSBAND'S CHORES

Pregnancy is a very delicate Period of a woman’s life and her husband has a lot of chores to handle while she stays pregnant.  Here are a few chores that should be handled by her husband ,not just because handling these chores might harm the pregnant woman but also because it’s kind of your “reward “ for knocking a woman who was on her way to head wall street only for her to now watch her body disfigure while she has less amount of energy to even get out of bed on some days.

1. CHORES THAT INVOLVE CLIMBING: The pregnant woman and her husband should know that all chores or activities that involve hopping on a stool or table to fix something should be totally avoided for a pregnant woman. Hanging curtains, cleaning ceiling fans, brushing the ceiling , getting rid of cobwebs or climbing on a stool to hide a stack of stolen cash behind the portmanteau that contains plumbing equipment is not advisable. During pregnancy, with the increased growth of the woman’s mid section comes a change in the center of gravity which makes them more vulnerable to falls.

This is not a chore and if you can do it then why not?

2. CHORES THAT INVOLVE CHEMICAL USE:  The pregnant woman and her husband need to note that the woman must lay off activities that brings her in contact with harsh chemicals. As a man once recalled, “ my wife’s skin was hypersensitive to soap products, she couldn’t wash dishes, clothes or even clean the tables without getting water boils”. From as little as  everyday soap products to harsh chemicals used for cloth and bathroom bleaching and cleaning up after pets, chemicals should be avoided as most of them have noxious fumes. Once they smell harsh, then they shouldn’t be used by the pregnant woman but her husband instead. Natural cleaning products like lemon, white vinegar and baking soda should be used .Using gloves when washing would also help protect the sensitive skin. Cleaning up after cats  also might expose the pregnant woman to toxoplamosis, a parasitic infection transmitted via cat feces  This explains why cats are mostly kept by lonely woman who never hope to get pregnant. Get rid of that creepy cat, you’re about to have a family now. The cat’s work is done.(Sorry, Ellen!)

That cat would make you birth a monster

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3. CHORES THAT INVOLVE HEAVY LIFTING: Any chore that involves heavy lifting like furniture rearrangement, picking up other children or weight lifting at the Olympics should be done by her husband. The pregnant woman and her husband needs to come to an agreement on how he is going to break his back lifting heavy materials around the house or If he is wise enough use a lever. The increased weight of pregnancy would cause a pull on the spine and would make the pregnant woman susceptible to back pain , heavy lifting would accentuate the back pain and make it chronic. Putting heavy materials on the head also counts as heavy lifting and would also affect the back.

The Husband should do this.

4. CHORES THAT INVOLVE BENDING : Gardening especially should be avoided by a pregnant woman and should be taken up by her husband. Chores that would leave the pregnant woman bent for long hours would lead to miscarriage, premature birth, preterm labour symptoms, placenta previa or more dangerous complications to the pregnancy and the pregnant woman. The pregnant woman and her husband must make an arrangement for him to take up chores that would lead to bending. Bending can cause the inflammation of the sciatic nerve which runs from the lower back to the entire leg. The weight gain in pregnancy already puts a lot of pressure on the nerve, bending it would literally snap it.

5. CHORES THAT PUTS THE WOMAN AT RISK: Any chore that might lead to a direct kick or blow on the stomach should be avoided. Working with animals, in the factories during the third trimester of the pregnancy  when the stomach has taken on a pear shape is totally inadvisable  The pregnant woman and her husband should  make an arrangement on how to help the woman get past these sort of chores.\

Most of the chores at home or in the office fall into one of these categories, so this is in a way telling the pregnant woman to do nothing, take a stroll from time to time, read what to expect when your expecting, take phone calls, take evening naps, read blogs, have a baby shower, see your doctor, go for pre-natal treatments and indulge in all your food cravings, eat anything and everything, except alcohol, tobacco, sea fish and whatever your doctor tells you not to and let the husband do the chores.

If you think this article is targeted at the husband as a form of punishment for  knocking up a woman, you  may not be wrong.If you think that  this is unfair then consult the man who made the empathy belly and see how it goes from there.

You can have fun with him, if he is a good sport,

Or go out and play with some new toys. Screw Gun Control

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WHY CHEATERS CHEAT

There are cheaters and there are womanizers. In the morality court, womanizers seem to always get the bail. Womanizers make up their mind on what to do , cheaters simply cheat. Cheaters never win.Cheaters seem to live their whole life keeping up appearances, watching over their shoulders and constantly living a lie. But why do cheaters cheat?. Simple they are called cheaters, so they cheat. Womanizers know what they want, their freedom, sense of choice and variety e.t.c, cheaters know everything but not what they really want.

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1. Neglect or feeling of Neglect:    

Most cheaters cheat because they feel neglected in their relationships. The feeling of neglect means literally that the cheater feels their emotional, material , sexual  needs have not been met by their partners and in some cases, it may not be true.

2. Boredom and Lack of Variety: 

Womanizers become cheaters most of the time when they are in a monogamous relationship because they get  used to variety of the past, being with several mates without any strings attached. This goes both ways for men and women and the fact that no strings are attached to the sexual activities makes it even less guilt ridden and easier.

I wonder what Rodrigo is doing right now, if he was here
he would sing to me and say dirty things.

3. Loss of passion and attractiveness: 

Cheaters cheat on their partners often times because they feel less attracted to their partners like they once did. The indifference to physical appearance after  some time in a relationship can do a lot of harm to the relationship. Instances when the partners get so used to themselves and the routine their whole relationship has now become that they  lose the drive to constantly look and feel attractive and romantic to their partners might lead one partner to cheat. Cheaters cheat at times because the spark they once enjoyed in their relationship has fizzled away with time. The “spark” is usually as a result of endorphin released by the brain when one falls in love as time goes and the relationship continues, the biochemical  environment in the brain slowly changes.

4. Loss of respect and appreciation: 

Cheaters cheat often times when they feel they are no longer appreciated in their relationship. No one is drooling on them anymore. This particularly affects the men . They sometimes cheat to find some kind of validation in their bruised ego and masculinity. Their present relationship has figuratively picked them up and sat them down and called them a “sissy” but they are too much of a  coward to bail  but instead chose to find some kind of validation by cheating.

5. Fun in the chase: 

Cheaters cheat at times just because of the fun they get from the whole game of cheating, cheaters sometimes get addicted to the adrenaline rush that accompanies the act of cheating. The fear of getting caught, the task of keeping the cheating a secret and living the double life without any hiccups.  The act of cheating has been proved to make men‘s brain work twice as effective as it would have done if they were faithful in a monogamous relationship. Some people become addicted to this and just always want to cheat in a relationship ,just as bad as a junkie needs cocaine.

This is always fun

until this happens

6. Parasitic relationships: 

Cheaters cheat oftentimes because they are in parasitic relationships or are parasitic kind of people, who go into relationships only for their own selfish personal benefits. In such situations, cheaters could care less about the well being or needs of their partner and would cling on to as many people that can give them what they want, when they want it, and how they want it. A more English Appropriate name for this parasites is narcissist. Narcissist are sometimes born not only made.

+2% every time he get his heart broken.

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7. No deal breaker:

 Cheaters cheat often times because some relationships are entered into without proper communication of  the deal breakers. They often get tempted to sway  when they find someone eccentric but with no knowledge of deal breakers in the relationship which has been properly communicated, cheaters sometimes cheat because they think they can eat their cake and have it.

Cheaters usually receive the short end of the stick, because when they get caught , they tend to lose all, fill themselves with regret and remorse and watch their whole lives tear apart. Cheaters however in some cases need to undergo therapy and counseling and maybe someday there would be a rehab for cheaters because at least they have a show on international television. If you have been cheated on here is how to handle infidelity. If you plan on cheating, here is a word for you from Jesus Christ, "What you are about to do, do quickly."

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LOSS OF A LOVED ONE

The loss of a loved one is one of the most painful experiences that anybody can go through. People across the world die every day and we seem to be quite indifferent to such occurrences  We live in a world where it is gradually becoming difficult to process emotions and where the value of a human life seems to be depreciating faster than the Zimbabwean dollar. People die daily in the hospitals, in accidents ,bomb explosions, robberies , shoot outs and what not but someday it eventually comes around and hits home. The loss of a  loved one occurs. Gone! , never to be seen again.

SHOCK

Depending on the conditions surrounding the death, the most common immediate reaction to the news of the death is shock also known as acute stress response, this is especially common when the loved one  was not expected to pass . It mostly comes as a result of the disbelief that death could actually hit home, the psychic re-experiencing of the circumstances leading to the death.This should not be confused with circulatory shock. This is the mind’s and body’s response to instances of intense helplessness.  This should be immediately treated with psycho pharmacological treatment  such as antidepressants and cognitive behavioral therapy which helps to change the  patients  thought pattern.

THE QUESTIONS

Depending on the circumstances surrounding the death of the loved one, questions are bound to arise. Why is this happening now? Why didn't I see this coming? How could I have prevented this? Why did God not save the dead? Was there a sign that I neglected? Am I the cause of the death? The questions never seem to end; they will keep pouring in one after the next. Answers never seem to come, resulting in a downward spiral into the pool of grief. Most questions seem to go unanswered or better yet, not appropriately answered. The mind is put on a futile task to find a perfect answer that would make the death of the loved one sensible; a perfect reason that would tie the loose strings, but it most of the time never comes. In answering these arising questions, you always have to understand that life is full of ups and downs and some occurrences just would never make sense.  So when those questions arise, answer with this simple answer, " life sometimes hits you with a brick on the head, you must still never lose faith."

GRIEF

The unanswered questions immediately lead to deep grief , sadness and sorrow. Coming to terms with the reality of things can also be very depressing based on the circumstances surrounding  the death of the loved one. The best way to get over grief is to let the emotions flow freely, let the tears roll, lets the screams and wailing ring in the air,don’t suppress anything. It is a tradition in ancient Africa to beat up women who have been bereaved with the hope of getting them to cry and get relief from grief. Don’t bottle  up your emotions and don’t listen to people telling you not to grief, talk about it, cry about it, sing about it, pray about it, give yourself time, people get over grief at completely different times but whatever you do , you have to let your emotions out to get over grief. During the time of grief, ensure, you still eat and drink lots of water to help the body system stabilize and see a medical doctor for check up.

REGRET

Depending on the circumstances surrounding the death of the loved one, there are instances where regret and bitterness may envelope the bereaved. After the death of a loved one, there are usually flashbacks on the life of the person and sometimes, the bereaved might recall  certain instances  in which they had premonition of the death of that particular loved one or signs which they seem to have neglected. Regret  might also come from procrastination of intentions relating to the loved one who had passed.  Things you planned to do but never did until the death of the loved one.  In  such situations you simply have to forgive yourself and let go of the hurt.  At times in life, we have premonitions, not to change the situation or prevent the situation from happening but to prepare for it  to happen and there is sometimes nothing we can do to change it.

PAIN

When a loved one dies and the bereaved seem to have gotten over the shock and grief, they move on to the final most difficult stage which is pain. This mostly happens as a result of the physical, emotional and spiritual void which the loved one filled while they were alive. The thirst for the loved one emotionally, physically and materially often lead to this pain which  differs in duration and magnitude with each person. This period of pain usually occurs when everyone is done sympathizing and empathizing, friends have stopped calling and life has began, it involves the life adjustments the bereaved would have to make to survive without the loved one. In this stage, the only way to heal is to talk about it, tell people, anybody what the loved one would have done if he or she was still alive, that way you move towards closure. Your subconscious begins to learn to eradicate that need for the loved one as it would never be filled again.

LOOKING INTO THE FUTURE WITH TEARY EYES.

When a loved one dies, we have people around coming to console and sympathize with the bereaved. In most cases, they prevent the bereaved from expressing emotions, and grieving , the bereaved in turn tries to come out of the grief and look into the future with teary eyes only to discover the void which the death of the loved one would bring. The responsibilities which the loved one has left behind which seemed to be perfectly suited for the loved one. In such situations, you have to know that tomorrow would take care of itself, everybody would eventually adjust and someday, somehow, life would continue because it already does, it’s already continuing."Death of a loved one at an unexpected time makes you see everything in life so differently. Suddenly most things are just not a big deal."

 

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