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Tuesday, 29 January 2013

BURNT BRIDGES- The Fired Porn School Teacher Story

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Stacie Halas, porn Teacher

Stacie  Halas had woken up early this morning. she was always alert, she maintained a healthy lifestyle, exercised  and was always in high spirits. Apart from the twitching in her left eye probably from gulping down all that green tea, in the last few days, she was good. For the first time in her life , she liked what she saw in the mirror, she was finally getting it together. The more matured look she always wanted. There was more to this look, than time, she wasn't behind on her rent, her flat was clean and tidy, just the way she wanted it and those  humming sounds in the basement was gone. Although she had still not gotten over her ex who left her out and dry things were definitely beginning to look up.

Today was going to be a busy day, there was an assembly at eight, a third period science class and a lesson plan to  submit. Those were basically work overs, just time consuming, she was on top of her job, she was one of the best science teachers in Haydock Intermediate School in Oxnard.
The thought of driving to school again was overwhelming, her car had been repossessed twice and she had had to take the bus. Everything was a blessing, there were lessons she had to learn, she had to finally get her head out of her ass and not expect the world to revolve around her. Now the world was revolving and she had found herself in it's stride.


Assembly was a breeze, the usual casual half hearted greetings among staff members, the principal being an epitome of a logorrhea patient and the obnoxious teens trying to draw attention to themselves. High school is basically the same , the only difference now from when she was a student was now, there were so many more laws and restrictions and the parents are much more involved , even though it hasn't really improved the standard of education, no thanks especially to the "no kids left behind " initiative and the fact that more and more kids want to be pop sensations. They seem to be more interested in the things beyond the class room walls.


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Classroom
Coming to her class, she couldn't have missed the profanity inscribed on her class room window,it was conspicuous and she knew it was done by her students and targeted at her. "someone had seen something", she knew immediately. She knew this day would come but she didn't know it would be this way, standing helpless in front of giggling fourteen year olds, who has violated the age limit for certain videos on the Internet.


Within the next few days things spiralled down, students had reported to their parents, parents had contacted the school, fellow teachers had downloaded profane videos on their smartphones, thousands of distress calls had been received and finally a sack letter was delivered and it read,

" Dear Mrs stacie halas,
Due to the recent discovery that you have once indulged in  pornographic activities which was not disclosed to the school at the time of your employment , it is pertinent to note that your engagement in pornography is incompatible with your responsibilities as a role model for students of this school, To this end, we regret to say that your employment has been terminated with immediate effect. Kindly submit all relevant documents in your possession to the vice principal".

It was  between just 8 months, six years ago at a time where she felt she had no choice, but it had come to hunt her down. she is presently appealing, claiming it was not illegal and it should be a credit to her that she is able to bounce back but she is presently not winning.The decisions we make each day affect our future in ways we might never comprehend.

This is just one in the millions of stories of how former porn stars try to adjust to life after porn ends.


Saturday, 26 January 2013

DRIVERS' LICENSE VS MARRIAGE LICENSE

What is a  marriage license?.

A marriage license is a document issued, either by a church or state authority, authorizing a couple to marry. 
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Marriage license
drivers license
Drivers license
 A driver's license is an official document which states that a person may operate a motorized vehicle, such as a motorcycle, car, truck or a bus, on a public roadway.
Below are 10 differences between the two.
¨ A Driver’s License  is obtained to move any vehicle  for a period of 4 years but a  marriage license  is used to “move” only one  person until death do them part. It is more like having a license to drive only one car, not only does the car belong to you, it also bears you name, while this makes marriage look like a dead end adventure. Marriage is one of the greatest things in life, if done in the right way with God's laid down principles.
¨  A driver’s license expires after 4 years  and most be renewed but a Marriage license lasts for life even after divorce, death is the only thing that do them apart. What is marriage, marriage is a promise and oath made by two willing parties before God to stay with each other, love and nurture each other till death do them part, while some marriages have gone on record for lasting 6 hours to 72 days, it is pertinent to note that even a divorce does not necessary render a marriage license null and void, that is why you should never jump into marriage. 

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¨ For ladies a marriage license would change your name , group and sometimes even your location, this is not so for a driver’s license.The drivers license would simply help you move yourself from place to place.
¨ A driver’s license is country specific, in some countries, even state or province specific ,  that is license can't be used in another state or country different from the one in which it was issued. but, a marriage license is for all weather, all places , all countries. Well except of course the unnatural kinds of marriages which are being criminalized in some countries or simply not recognized in others. 
¨ A driver’s license  is for one person whose face appear on the card, a marriage license is for two whose faces do not appear on the card but have hundreds of people or  at least one to bear witness to the issuance.
¨ A driver’s license can only be issued to persons above 17, for a marriage license age is just a number whether high or low.Although it is outrightly uncalled for, for a marriage to be conducted between willling or non willing parties under the age of 18. This is not permissible in some countries but a practice in others, ever heard of the word" Child brides"
¨ To obtain a driver’s license, a man or woman is supposed to test drive , though as we have come to know, this is not obtainable in some countries, especially African Countries but for a marriage license “test driving” is a sin in religious circles and is not a guarantee to marriage in secular circles. 
¨ While a driver’s license is a standard form of identification, a marriage license isn’t.
¨ A marriage license is issued after a promise to love, hold and cherish but a driver license is issued even if you are  going to end up bashing your car. There is no promise to protect or care for your car, as long as you have indicated that you understand the laws governing driving in that country. While you could get yourself arrested for disobeying the driving laws , there is no immediate close-up monitoring to ensure that you are fully adhering to the marriage vows that you swore.

¨ With a valid driver’s license, the road safety marshals would leave you alone but even with a marriage license you cannot be guaranteed to be left alone by people who “want to reap where they did not sow”, the unmarried, the greedy and the lustful. Marriage is not a way of getting away from " the chasers". That you have to handle yourself.

MARRIAGE WITHOUT A LICENSE: A Completely Moral Alternative to Civil Marriage




Friday, 25 January 2013

LIES ABOUT SEX

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Lies about sex


  

Lies about sex  
We live in a world of decaying morals and often times people always invent lies to give themselves a little more reason to continue in their perverse ways , here are a few of them;


LIE 1
A young man needs to have experience for him to satisfy his future wife:



This is so false, sexual satisfaction to women is like a  DNA, it is unique to every woman, what is good for one may be bad for another so it is utterly ridiculous for any one to say that, statistics has shown that men who had marital problems relating to sexual issues have had multiple partners when they were unmarried.




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LIE 2
Sex makes love stronger that is why it is called making love:


Truth is sex blocks out love, love grows with time and togetherness  while sex is a physical  ( though having spiritual consequences ) activity, if sex makes love grow    then the commercial sex workers shouldn't have any problem falling in love and getting married, a feeling of intimacy is created by a "chemical cocktail" that is produced in the brain during sex and stays with each person for up to 24 hours after intercourse but vanishes quickly away ,statistics have also shown that only 5% of couples  who had sex before their marriage ended up getting married  while 96% of them later divorced, but 99% of couples who didn't engage in premarital sex stayed married after ten years. Genital sex is an expression of intimacy, not the means to intimacy. True intimacy springs from verbal and emotional communion. True intimacy is built on a commitment to honesty, love and freedom. True intimacy is not primarily a sexual encounter. Intimacy, in fact, has almost nothing to do with our sex organs. A prostitute may expose her body, but her relationships are hardly intimate, premarital sex short circuits the emotional bonding process.



LIE 3 :
 Sex is the test of compatibility (test driving):



Lies about sex

Test driving is the result of having multiple partners and it is damaging to a relationship to compare people  to each other based on sex and on what scale or criteria are you going to use in comparing. You are simply going to be comparing the previous sex mate with the next and often times if you find something better, you would immediately believe that there is something even better and there would be no commitment., if you have one wife and don’t engage in premarital sex it would be impossible to compare anyone with another and it would reduce the risk of unfaithfulness in marriage.

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Wednesday, 23 January 2013

SHORT STORY-WHY I HAVE NO FUTURE AMBITION ( An African Child)





African Village
African Village

 Growing up at Aba Nla, a village close to Ibadan, I had two “career paths” on my mind. I wanted to become either a Police officer or a coffin maker. A Police officer, because it was the easiest job to make free money; a Coffin-maker because there will always be a ready market as people will naturally die. After the community  leader, a retired Civil war veteran, the richest man in the community was the DPO Kenneth. By the time I finished JSS 3, my confusion as to which of the professions to take was resolved. Even back in the early 90’s when Road bribery wasn’t done with much chutzpah by our friends in black, getting yourself through the Police College was a very cool idea. The idea of being a Policeman in Nigeria is even more lucrative these days that there’s no limit to how much you can make on the roads. Luckily for you as a Policeman, your customers won’t have required papers before they put their cars on the road. For your customers who have all their papers, they won’t know their rights. The only danger here is possible  armed robbers attack. Luckily for you, when armed robbers are on the prowl, your customers  whom you should protect,  will offer you their own clothes to change into. Even if you refuse, you will be advised to oblige since  your gun-power cannot match the machines  being used by the robbers .This was my mindset until the day some robbers escaped from a bank robbery at Ijebu-Ode. Aba Nla was  to be their exit route but DPO Kenneth, my role model at that time and his boys were radioed from Eleyele Force Headquaters in Ibadan to lay ambush for the robbers. Kenneth and his boys bowed to superior fire-power. Kenneth was shot and he didn’t survive. Then I asked myself, “ what shall it profit a Policeman who “obtained” motorists, made so much money only to be killed in action. I switched to Plan B.  Coffin makers/sellers are business men who are on a class of their own; I wanted to be a distinguished one. The Nigerian businessman who understands the logic of the coffin sellers is Aliko Dangote. Sell to your customers what they can’t do without – Rice, salt, sugar – and you are good. It’s the same thing for the coffin-seller; people live, make money and strive hard only for one thing – to die. A coffin-seller will only be out of business when people stop dying. I have even seen a 60 year old man model  for coffin makers. After I dropped out of Prospect High School, I joined a coffin-maker as an apprentice. Kasali Coffin-makers was the biggest in the whole of Aba Nla. He even had customers as far as Ibadan, Ijebu-Ode, Lagos and Abeokuta. I learnt the trick to Kasali’s success the first week  I joined. There were two apprentices working with him already , John and Ade.     Kasali came to our house on a Thursday evening with the two boys and he informed my grandma that I had an errand to run for him. The nature of my apprenticeship was such that your oga was more or less your owner – so your parents  obliged any request. .I simply put on my Kito sandals and followed them. We all rode away in Kasali’s 504 Station Wagon, the second best car in the community after Baale’s Mercedes 200. DPO Kenneth’s 505 evolution was taken away by his family after his death
   

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The smoke coming out of the exhaust as we drove off was not much of a worry since it was quite dark already; we inhaled some, the rest was for passers-by. I still couldn’t understand the kind of assignment oga had for us at such unholy hour                        .
He was apparently driving out of the community but took a turn as I asked a question.“Oga, where exactly are we going this night?”. John and Ade exchanged glances and they appeared to be satisfied that I was worried. The previous 3 days at work had been terrible for me because both of them used every opportunity to show me that they were my seniors at work. This didn’t go down well with me because they were my age mates and they were only ahead of me at Oga Kasali’s place because they dropped out of school earlier than me                     .

“We are here already, don’t be scared” Kasali responded                      .
That was when I noticed that we were driving towards the cemetery gate.
“Oga Kasa, but we came here in the morning for a burial.” I said                      .
Oga Kasali actually made the coffin used for the burial and I couldn’t understand why we came back                        .African village

The gateman of the cemetery approached the car and flashed his torchlight at us while oga Kasa flashed back with the car’s headlight. On another occasion I would have asked for the rationale behind putting a fence around a Cemetery and having a gatemen there. Was it to prevent the dead bodies from escaping? Or was it to prevent outsiders from interacting with them?

“Kasa gbangba, Good evening o” The gateman hailed Oga Kasali                           .
“Baba ode, well done sir. We are here o.” responded Kasali             .

“I don dey wait for the past thirty minutes. Make we start work immediately abeg” stated the gateman               .

The gateman who I knew very well because he stayed three houses away from my grandma., then noticed me in the car and asked   why I was there.  He actually joined us this week” replied Kasali                 .

We all moved towards the point where the burial of that day took place. John and Ade suddenly brought out diggers from behind a tree and they started digging.

That was when I realized what was happening. So Kasali sold coffins to people only for them to be retrieved and later sold to other people.

I was so scared and I couldn’t understand why they were so confident as they went on with the digging. What if someone later discovered what we were doing? .John and Ade had been digging for a while and it appeared they were already looking at the coffin. I was still in shock at what was going on as Oga Kasali and the gateman stepped forward to assist the boys.

Everyone knew I was in shock, so they didn’t bother asking me to do anything.
By this time, the coffin was exhumed  and they were about to open it.
“Kasali, when I go collect my balance na? I need money o” The gateman told Kasali               .
“No worry baba. By tomorrow, we go sell this one to another person and money go come in. I go settle you properly.” Replied Kasali               
How it happened, I still cannot explain till tomorrow. A voice, baritone one for that matter, suddenly came from the ground                     .

“Ka-sa-li! “To si gba owo ise re!” meaning “ But you were paid for this coffin.” Said the ghost, who was holding Kasali’s hand.

We all took off and escaped through different routes apart from Kasali who was being held by the ghost. Now I can officially call myself an NFA,(No future Ambition) as my two  career paths have proved too dangerous to cope with. Please  don’t tell my story in a serious Gathering.






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LETTERS TO FUTURE WIFE

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Letter to WIfe

           Hello there,
It took a lot of self-psyching to finally put a pen to my thoughts. I am not the kind of guy that writes, even my lecture notes are mostly photocopied but with every letter to my future spouse that I come across, I find myself wanting to write to you. First of all, I want you to know that I am not a saint, and that is actually putting it mildly. I am not a fire vomiting, thunder erupting and volcano blasting brother but I must say that I am also not the same kind of Christian I was 5 years ago, or even 5 days ago. I am constantly taking baby steps to the knowledge of truth, faith , patience, brokenness, love , long-suffering, compassion and holiness.


I have been a product of my environment, no thanks to growing up in a dysfunctional home and being exposed to all kinds of present day vices but as you know, our God is faithful and just even to the faithless as he commands rain to fall on both good and evil.

In my discovery of truth , I have come to realize that the fruit doesn't always fall far from the tree and the home is the primary shaping centre of the mind , body and soul. I have also come to discover that a good home is a product of a good marriage and this has made the whole marriage institution glow in new light to me.
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All my life , I have  set goals to become successful, get things done, develop myself , expand my horizon but I never for once thought about making myself a man who can lead a good home through a good marriage.
I have since discovered that this great neglect has somehow being preparing me to fall in the generational cycle of a dysfunctional home front.
I would love to be a good and loving husband and father . I would love to lead a God fearing home and be one with my wife through the journey of life. I would love to have a home of ever increasing love and not just becoming roommates after a few years of marriage.
In all this, I have also realized that the original plan of marriage was God’s, and no matter how much the world tries to get him out of it, it still remain his. It was his plan, his design, his work. And just the way you wouldn’t run a Toyota Camry car with a  Vespa engine, only in God, the master planner can we truly enjoy marriage and not endure it. With this, I understand why the rate of divorce and separation is high and why all my previous relationships never lasted and why I initially concluded that the so called “wife material” was no more.
I now know that I have to do it the God way, I have to summit myself to him to make me a husband material capable of handling a wife material. I now know that I have to trust him to lead me to the bone of my bone. With this new found knowledge and confidence, I write to you and say, It is well with you.
Your Future Husband.

Read:Dear Future Wife: A time capsule letter from a Stand-Up Comedian to his future wife.

THE WILL OF GOD


Matthew 7:21 says “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
 This singular passage here would be the reason why a lot of Christians may not make heaven.  From that passage it can be deduced that not all those who call Jesus , Lord (Christians) would make heaven and the greatest tragedy that can happen to a Christian is not to do the will of God on this earth. This puts the will of God on the foremost list of priorities for a Christian.
There are 3 wills capable of controlling man.
 2. The  Will of the devil
3.The  Will of man himself.

In this life we are constantly being pulled and dragged by the will of the devil due to satanic influence and our wills due to personal interest of the flesh which we believe is logical and seem right. When Eve ate the apple in the Garden of Eden, she was persuaded by the devil but before she ate it, the bible says, that she inspected it and saw that it was good and capable of giving man knowledge. The fall of man was a co-operative endeavor between the will of the devil and the will of man.  This scenario is playing over and over again in the world we live in today.

The will of God however, doesn’t drag you or bombard you. From James 4:7,  Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. We see that we have to submit ourselves to the will of God, it would never force itself on us. This explains why you can never have a child who was never corrected or disciplined and grew up on his or her own turn out right. Because he would be bombarded by the will of the devil and  his own will.

When you submit yourselves to God, then you would be able to resist the devil and he would flee. Resisting the devil when you have not totally submitted yourself to God can be very dangerous. At the same time submitting yourself to God and not resisting the devil would make your salvation useless. Submit yourselves today to the will of God by being born again, and by  bringing your heart to the Lord, letting him take control of your heart and your mind. Ezekiel 33:31 says “ My people come to you, as they usually do, and sit before you to hear your words, but they do not put them into practice. Their mouths speak of love, but their hearts are greedy for unjust gain. I peter 4 also says  “Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin. 2 As a result, they do not live the rest of their earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God.”

 The will of God can be classified into two.
1. The revealed will of God which is from the bible, it follows the laws of God placed in the bible.
2. The specific will of God: after you have followed the revealed will of God in the bible then you can now wait for the specifics that God would tell you.

Matthew 19:16 tells the story of a young rich man who came to Jesus   “ Now behold, one came and said to Him, “Good Teacher, what good thing shall I do that I may have eternal life?” 17 So He said to him, “Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God But if you want to enter into life, keep the commandments.”18 He said to Him, “Which ones?”
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The will of God
Jesus said, “‘You shall not murder,’ ‘You shall not commit adultery,’ ‘You shall not steal,’ ‘You shall not bear false witness,’ 19 ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”20 The young man said to Him, “All these things I have kept from my youth . What do I still lack?” 21 Jesus said to him, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.

Jesus told him about the revealed will of God in the commandments and then when he said he had fulfilled that, God gave a specific will. In life you would need the  specific will of God and the only way of getting this is to first follow the revealed will. David was one man who followed the specific will of God as Acts 13:36 reveals
“ For David, after he had served his own generation by the will of God, fell asleep, was buried with his fathers”.

Tuesday, 15 January 2013

I GIVE MYSELF AWAY


I Give myself away.
I Give myself Away.

There is a video that has just been recently uploaded on YouTube and No!, it is not another Korean pop sensation or another awkward kid in the Middle East. This time, it is coming from the church. It was uploaded by rave urban TV and it apparently features a bishop consecrating some new bishops into position. The very theatrical process involved lying on the floor, man on man, white cloth, red cloth and a bishop girdle ( or a dress).
This has seen some uploads to social media and has had it’s share of comments. Majority blasted the act, tagging it unscriptural, gay, a show off to mention a few. Other suggested that members should have walked out on the “weirdness”. The song, i give myself away was also cited to be ambiguous. The most liked comment read “ THE SAD PART THE CHURCH WAS CLAPPING ON HIS HUMPING....LIKE REALLY!!!
See for yourself.
Well the church has since taken the video down, something they shouldn't have recorded in the first place.
Now, you have to understand the perspective of the public on this issue. The American Environment has made homosexual activities a part of it’s everyday life and as such no longer criminalized or segregated , but you know as things change they also remain the same. This singular act has also made any form of same sex contact ultimately tagged as gay. You would really understand this, if you went to india, where a large percentage of the men are heterosexual yet very feminine in one way or the other.
Back to the church located somewhere in Detroit. Ordination and consecration should be done privately, not like a reality show. Ordinations are usually done amongst the church workers and ministers and the new inductees are simply announced to the congregation. This is not the first time; we have seen something of this nature done in the open. This doesn’t do anything to the new convert or the new birth Christian other than to make them feel uncomfortable and in most cases confused.
IS IT REALLY SCRIPTURAL?
One place in the bible where laying was recorded was in 2kings chapter 4: where Elisha laid on the rich widow’s child, it reads
32 Elisha arrived at the woman’s house and went straight to his room, where he saw the boy’s body on his bed. 33 He walked in, shut the door, and prayed to the Lord. 34 Then he got on the bed and stretched out over the dead body, with his mouth on the boy’s mouth, his eyes on his eyes, and his hand on his hands. As he lay there, the boy’s body became warm. 35 Elisha got up and walked back and forth in the room, then he went back and leaned over the boy’s body. The boy sneezed seven times and opened his eyes.
In this scenario, the laying was to awaken the spirit, soul and in turn body by transfer due to body contact.  This may be the principle the bishop is trying to recreate here, using his body as a vessel of transfer to the men on the ground. But it has to be noted that in the case of  Elisha it was face to face ( which would have caused even more uproar) and when people die, they are laid chest up. While this theory is not cast in stone, we have to understand that whatever we do, we should do in moderation, so that people would not be drowned in the confusion that certain acts have caused. I give myself away.
Let’s know what you think?

DIRECTION

Direction.
Ruth 1
 "1 In the days when the judges ruled, there was a famine in the land. So a man from Bethlehem in Judah, together with his wife and two sons, went to live for a while in the country of Moab. 2 The man’s name was Elimelech, his wife’s name was Naomi, and the names of his two were Mahlon and Kilion."
  In the above passage we see a man  take a decision to follow a direction based on his present condition and location, in the bid to avoid suffering and hardship from the famine which was in the land.  He went ahead with his wife and children. remember we are looking at direction.
 Jeremiah  1:5  says
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,   before you were born I set you apart;   I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."
1 Corin 6:19 says
" Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own".
 In verse 12,
"it says that everything is permissible to me but not everything is beneficial",
It also goes to say that  you are not  your own in other words, the lord owns us, in jeremiah we see God telling  jeremiah that before he was formed , he had an assignment. The same thing applies to everyone on earth , we are not here to follow the crowd and make decisons based on popular perceptions . Whatever the circumstances surrounding your births, God has a plan and assignment for you and a direction for you to follow.
We have come to discover that God’s plan for our life is location specific, you can not just afford to relocate anywhere, do anything, studyany course, work in any company because God has our master plan.

 Genesis 12
 " The LORD had said to Abram, “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you. 2 “I will make you into a great nation,    and I will bless you; I will make your name great,    and you will be a blessing.3 I will bless those who bless you,    and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth   will be blessed through you"
Direction



 In that verse we see that  God has a plan for Abram but it was location specific, if he had remained he wouldn't have been a great nation, if he had moved to a country where God did not show him none of God's promises  would hold.
When lot chose a land to dwell , he looked at the quality of the land, the soil and the logical benefits he felt he could get from that land but in the long run, he returned from that land empty handed. When a manufacturer creates a  machine, he also writes a product manual for it, a Direction for every user to follow, where the function which that machine is designed for would be stated and conditions for which it would operate, if the machine now decides to act like another different machine all it’s efforts would be frustrated and in the long run, it would amount to zero.

 A lot of us youths today because of the societal and parental pressures go ahead and studycourses that God did not lead them to, marry people God did not appoint them to, take up jobs that God did not direct them to and in the long run, it would definitely amount to nothing. A lot of people spend their whole lives living lives  that God has no idea about and they die like they never lived. God has deposited a lot of virtues in us, and a lot of us have the vision of what God wants us to be, but we need to go back and ask God for direction on how to get there, which job to take, which program to do , which town to move to. Elimelek   was caught in the moment of what was going on around him and he moved to another town, there he lost his life , all his sons  died, it was also important to note that in that land of moab they never had any more kids and  they lost all they had and came back penniless. In ten years from now the difference in people   now would be the difference in the God given Direction that each one has taken. Don’t just do anything, pray that God should direct you, life is too short to be lived running around in circles. , get DIRECTION
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Direction