THE PREGNANT WOMAN AND HER HUSBAND

One of the most remarkable period in a woman's life is her pregnancy period.It is also the most confusing period for the husband of  pregnant women. Everything changes, her face, her body, her eating ability and worst of all her patience.Here are tips for the  pregnant woman and her husband  during that crucial  time in their life– the time of pregnancy.

Husband of Pregnant women

If only you knew who the real father is

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 Back rub is a Necessity: The number one thing that  husbands of pregnant women may as well work toward getting used to doing all through your wife's pregnancy is to give her loads and loads of back rubs. Back pain in pregnant women is very common.Many women feel back pain throughout their pregnancy. In any case regardless of the fact that they don't, back rubs are a great course to help them focus  and take their brains off  the whole lot that they're going through ,more like "the whole lot that their husbands" are putting them through for instance  weight gain and the physical changes that they're experiencing.Taking time out of the day as a responsible husband of a pregnant woman  to rub his wife's back for no less than ten minutes might be a lifeline for the pregnant woman and her husband.!`

When i'm through with your back you wouldn't even feel your spine again

·  Attentiveness and empathy should be your watchword:  There are some pregnant women who have to deal with over-the-top increasing hormones, and for those ladies it is not odd to head off from being cheerful to hollering in one second even. For those husbands of pregnant women who have to experience this, attempt to take a profound breath and console  her emphatically in any method plausible. Pregnant women relish this with their husbands and will adore you more for it!

I am only doing this because i read it in a blog on empathy

· Do the Chores: Even though some wives are expected to clean the house, do the dishes, laundry, and other house chores especially when you don't have any help.Husband of pregnant women have to realize that on some days the greatest challenge of a pregnant woman is to get up out of bed throughout their pregnancy. By letting your wife unwind when she gets back from work (in the event that she works) or giving her a chance to unwind after supper instead of assuming that she'll jump right to the dishes, and doing some of the house chores yourself, is definitely a big help to those pregnant women who do find it challenging to stroll from their bedroom to the front door!

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This man must think i'm still pregnant for one more week

· Redesign the House especially the bedroom: For some women the bedroom is the sanctuary. It is where they can unwind, get rest, read a book, watch TV and of course sleep.  Changing the sheets, redecorating the room would definitely lighten her mood if it is done well.Not to mention, the type of material on the bed .. Try out Egyptian cotton or organic cotton, 1000-thread count, double-thick pillows... whatever it is... if your budget permits, get her the bed of her dreams and a comfy couch . She's the one carrying the person growing inside of her, not you the husband of the pregnant woman! That trumps anything you may have to deal with. Young Men, to be honest, you can’t imagine what it's like to have a person growing inside of you .

I read somewhere that this color calms pregnant women........Oh  it doesn't?

· Forgive her Mood swings and tantrums: If as a pregnant woman's husband you find your wife deals with mood swings during her pregnancy, forgive them immediately.

 Realize that

1) not every pregnant women deals with pregnancy the same way   2) for pregnant women and their husbands, every day may be an adventure;

 3) not everyone cares that she's pregnant... in other words, life still goes on. Bills still need to be paid, individuals still call her. and so forth. . So if she takes it out on you the husband accidentally, love her through it.. Whatever happens, don't contribute to the ball of emotions she may be dealing with. Someone needs to be the stable one and  it has to be the husband of pregnant women... deal with it. Husband, Love Your Wife... Even when She's Pregnant! Dude, You're Gonna Be a Dad!, so suck it up and  work on getting both of you through the next nine months.

Please don't cry...........Okay  i would take my shirt off and dance  gangnam style!

Read about the whole thing, don't just talk to friends and family and complain of walking on egg shells, read a book and enlighten yourself about the whole thing, a  600 word blog post filled with sarcasm would not afford you all the things and little details you need to know, if you were man enough to shove a sperm down her ovaries, you should be man enough to read a book like " The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be ,  to learn  how your sperm is doing and how it is affecting her body, her life and her moods.

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SHORT STORY-THE PERFECT ESCAPE

Well, it is basically trying to climb ropes on little food 

or looking like a fool in the presence of your fellows

or standing in the sun for long  hours till you pass out.

The  three weeks spent on camp was not spent in vain. The endurance trek, the drills, match past in the sun , punishments and all are something, I would always be grateful for, that is why I am personally against the notion of scraping NYSC. I would never have participated in such rigorous tasks that I have only seen on shows like Fear factor, Ultimate search (Nigeria’s version of Survivor) and survivor itself. Until I was forced to do them by the environment I found myself. I was deployed to a state in the North central zone  of the Nigeria and our platoon commandant was a female, so she did not spare the females in the platoon at all. She was one of the strongest soldiers on the camp and other male soldiers respected her, and she really drilled us, we the girls especially. In fact she was our major problem on camp, because she was more of an extremist and feminist all combined into one. All the drills were done by the girls , those who complained about not being able to do anything, were made to do them after others have been dismissed. After the first time of staying back when others have been dismissed, I decided to do everything at the first time because, it only gets worse when you are made to stay back. I developed stamina, strength and a little bit of fearlessness. This was soon to be a valuable asset , when on a warm afternoon about two weeks after camp, I entered a “one chance” vehicle when I went for a Job Recruitment test in Lagos.

If you look closely you would see me.

It was immediately obvious when I boarded the commercial bus that things were not right, it was a bus and I realized that we were only about 8 passengers in the bus and most of them were fearful looking, the conductor had also sat down and we were passing bus-stops and all , then finally I got it, they were criminals and just about four of us were victims, I immediately started devising a plan. One of the other ladies too, must have noticed and she said she wanted to alight the bus. Nobody answered, it felt like she was talking to herself, she became hysterical and started screaming, she was then given a dirty slap across a face to calm her down. It was kind of an age long therapy that robbers knew too well and this time it worked like magic. The lady became mute as a doorknob like she didn't even feel pain from the slap. They were trying to get us from the busy inner streets to  the lonely highways , where they can rob us carefully then drop us, I was sitting near the door  which was still open beside the conductor, suddenly we approached a sharp bend where we had to slow down, this was the opportunity I needed, I grabbed my bag and flew out , landed on the floor and rolled off the road, even the conductor must have been amazed by my athletic ability . I got up dusted myself and ran, they didn’t even stop, they kept on moving even faster. I was grateful to God, my platoon commandant and myself. I am definitely stronger now. I had some bruises but who cares, I am alive, and safe, that is all that matters.

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The National Youth Service Corp (NYSC) is a one year compulsory para-military for all right out of school graduates in Nigeria. It involves 3 weeks on intense training in a camp and then another 9 months of deployment  mostly to parastatals  . “One chance” is a loose term used for camouflage commercial vehicles hijacked by criminals with the sole intention of robbing it’s passengers.

          Read Perfect Escape

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MORINGA- THE MIRACLE LEAF ( A Revelation in Natural Supplements)

Moringa Leaf

Imagine a fresh leaf that contains seven times as much vitamins C as oranges. When the leaf is dry, it contains half the quantity of vitamins in oranges. Imagine also that when fresh, the leaf also contains four times the vitamins A of carrots while the dry one contains 10 times as much of the vitamins in carrots.

Again, the leaf when fresh contains four times the calcium contained in  milk and when dry, contains 17 times as much calcium as milk. In terms of potassium, the same leaf contains three times the quantity of the mineral as banana. When the leaf is dry, the potassium level is 15 times what the banana has. The leaf contains three quarters of the iron in spinach but when it is dry, the iron content is 25 times of what spinach has. If you are looking for protein, the quantity contained in the fresh leaf is two times what you get from yoghurt, but when the leaf is dry , it contains as much protein as yoghurt.

Moringa Leaf

Moringa leaf

Such a leaf must be miraculous, according to experts. Yes, the plant that bears the leaf has actually earned the nickname miracle tree. Its botanical name is Moringa oleifera. Moringa is mostly common in African, Nigeria, where is it mostly grows naturally and has different names in different ethnic groups. In hausa ,moringa is called zogale; it is called gawara in Fulani; okwe oyibo in Igbo and ewe ile in Yoruba.

Moringa is a small shrub or tree that can reach 12 metres in height in maturity and can live for up to 20 years. A short but intense life, a life in the fast lane. Moringa is perhaps the fastest growing of all trees as it can reach three metres in just 10 months after the seed is planted. It has deep roots, and therefore it can survive in dry regions, and a wide-open crown with a single stem. Moringa is a healer, food magician, beauty and beautician, a plant with surprising water purification capabilities, a best friend and humanitarian who works for so little. It is one of the most useful tress on earth. Moringa makes a major contribution to human and animal health, in many cases, it can mean the difference between life and death, absolutely no negative effects to daily consumption of moringa leaves have been reported. It is believed that the leaf has a stabilising effect on blood pressure and glucose levels as they are also used to treat anxiety, diarrhoea and inflammation of the colon, skin infections, scurvy, intestinal parasites and many other conditions.”  If the entire value chain for moringa is developed, it can create over one million jobs and generate over 500bn in revenue for Nigeria. people can make a lot of money and  earn a living by cultivating the plant and selling the different parts such as the roots, trunk , seeds, leaves, flowers to           processors. This can also be a sure way of poverty alleviation and wealth creation. Because of the enormous potential of moringa,  out-growers are encouraged to go into small scale plantation of this crop as income generating process for small- scale business in the rural communities.

Over the past decade, report findings on the plant have been featured in many scientific journals recognising the multi-faceted economic uses of moringa as a potent and viable resource for combating hunger, malnutrition, poverty and disease.

The plant has become even more relevant, considering the potential in job/wealth creation and also in achieving the millennium development goals. For this reason, many refer to it as a millennium plant.

OMG! this is going to ruin my breakfast cereal.

It is also pertinent to note that Moringa grows and thrives well in parts of the world identified with poverty, underdevelopment and malnutrition .

Moringa oil could also be extracted as edible oil and for bio- diesel, especially during this time of renewable energy and sustainability.

Moringa Oil

 The miracle tree presents several business opportunities for discerning investors in agriculture and the agro- allied industry. For any person that invest in growing the plant, different parts present business opportunities as they can be harvested and marketed.

 Apart from growing the tree, processing also offers another avenue for anyone that is interested in exploiting the economic potential of moringa oleifera.

Other products that can be  processed from the plant include seasoning powder, tea drink, food supplements and medicinal products.

I hope this Miracle leaf would also cure my Anger, Paranoia and Mind wandering.

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CHEAP VALENTINE IDEAS- (How to celebrate valentine's day on a budget)

It is that time of the year again, where lovers all over the world exchange gifts and pleasantries due to an age long tradition that came about as a result of the great one Augustus Valentine. Every year, billions of dollars are spent on gifts to celebrate valentine’s day. A lot of websites and blogs post new and creative valentine day  ideas  and other expenditures. In case you are in-between jobs, or living on a budget and still have someone who loves you then here is how to celebrate valentine’s day without breaking your bank account which is already in the red.

1. Don't Eat out- 

Okay, this is hard but you have to understand that all the restaurants are going to be choked up any way and waiters would be on their worst behaviours, you might have to wait a while to get a seat in the cheapest of restaurants, this is assuming you have not made a reservation because you are on a budget.  A cheaper valentine day idea is to Instead eat in, you and your lover should get a valentine recipe off the internet and get the ones with cheap ingredients and make the meal together, just the two of you. It might not taste good , it might actually suck but you would learn that the beauty of valentine is doing things together.

Cheap Valentine Recipes

2.Go for a  valentine program-

A good valentine idea is to go for an admit all program or party.There are lots of cheap valentine programs, carnivals and seminars organised by churches,media outlets, schools and organisation. Most programs involve discussions, questions and relationship issues all centered on strengthening and testing your relationship. It might even be a valentine party and you can just tag along ,hoping the host would supply everything including gifts.

3.Send your messages on social media.

Here your knowledge of some graphic design would come in handy for this valentine day idea. A lady once said the best present i received from my partner was a hand drawn  lettering which read " Lola my beautiful valentine". You can also send free e-valentine cards , send  about 24, that is one every hour. Get on the internet  somewhere and send these e cards  Some sites have the option of sending it to media enabled phones. You can also write hand written notes, if you are not a poet, or writer, you can hop on the internet or like a brother once said, " copy lyrics of your favorite love song. RELATED POST: 10 THINGS YOU SHOULD DO FOR YOUR PARTNER ON VALENTINE'S DAY                                                    VALENTINE DAY FOR SINGLES

4. Pair up.

We are all trying to enjoy ourselves while waiting for the combo  package

If you happen to have friends who are also in on celebrating the valentine’s day, you can simply pair up and go for combo packages of pizzas, ice-cream .rice bowls and chicken soups. Chinese restaurants have all these packages the most, and you can never  go wrong with Chinese food until you puke  . You have to be close friends for this valentine day idea to fly and  everybody on the team has to have mutual respect and care for each other, you don’t want a  tensed up valentine dinner .

5.Buy cheap classy gifts.

Gifts for ladies like accessories, hair ornaments, clips, nail fillers, or very new looking second hand novels  (if your partner likes reading) ,simple pastries, creams etc don’t cost a fortune. If you know where to buy cheap but classy ones. A guy might need the assistance of a female in getting these really good classy gifts .Gift for guys like  boxers/briefs, underwear, simple and plain office shirts, cuff links are also very cheap especially if  you know where to look to get cheap and classy ones.

6. Postpone valentine.

If the above list doesn't sound like what you can handle then simply postpone valentine. Let something come up , fix appointments, meetings, trip or work throughout the day, call to say hello in the morning and then drown yourself in your duties, when others leave work/school  early , offer to help them with their jobs and stay there late. Then when your pockets are eating cheese cake then you can have your own valentine on say the 17^th of June, if you still have someone who loves you by then. You can never go wrong with these  cheap valentine day ideas

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10 THINGS YOU SHOULD DO FOR YOUR PARTNER ON VALENTINE'S DAY

Your partner

   Wake your partner up  with a love song on valentine’s day. Call when you know they should still be sleeping [say 5 am or 6 am or even 8 am if your partner is the type that sleeps till noon (lazydrone) ] and then vocally sing a love song . You don’t have to be a musician but that is kind of an added advantage. If you sound terrible and your voice can probably cause a hurricane or induce migraines, then play a record underground or send an MMS. You might also request that the song is played on the radio and call or wake your partner up to listen to it. In case you don’t find any request shows that early ,just hope love songs would come up and then call your partner when they do, otherwise stick to the original plan.

Lady waiting to be woken up by her partner.

 .  Write your partner a letter, listing 10-50 things you love about your partner , send it in an envelope and make someone else deliver it. Don’t drop it in the mail though; it may be delivered on the wrong date or worst still to the wrong person.

Write a love letter to your partner

       Send 24 unique text love messages every hour of the day, yes even in the midnight. If you use a very good phone that sets the sending time of text messages, you would save yourself the stress of waking up. You can lower this down to 16-18 during the hours that you are awake but ensure that the number is an even number of text messages.

Just copy this text message if you can read it.

 .Indulge your partner in their favorite interests, If your partner loves to watch sitcoms for example, then sit through one with your partner. Do something that is in your partner’s interest.

Let your partner do all he always wanted to do,-go around the house in his drawers and play with teddy bears.

Now I finally get that cuddle  i have been dying to get, Thanks to this horror film that i have seen countless times but she hasn't.

      Take up some of your partner’s chores, do not do what you can’t do or try to prove a point. Just assist and get it done well, so it wouldn't be a total waste of time at the end of the day.

After Taking this picture, i am going to leave the kitchen and  just call someone to wash these dirty dishes.

All I need to do is leave soap marks , that is the proof that i cleaned the floor.

    Allow your partner choose your outfit for the valentine day, help you shave or brush your hair. You would find out that the simple outfits are the most loved.

This outfit was chosen by my better half

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PREGNANT WOMEN AND THEIR HUSBANDS

   Go out on a date night. Going  out doesn't necessarily mean  going to the most expensive restaurant to rub shoulders with the multitude you would find there on valentine’s day, trying to live up to an expectation they don’t know nothing about.  The date night may be a long walk on a busy street, stopping at intervals to buy road side meals. As long as the conversation is going smooth and your legs are not aching. The date night would go on well. Listen to your partner and allow your partner speak , share a good laugh. Have fun.

I am only smiling because i read that on a blog.

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   Have your pictures taken together ,by a photographer, not some clumsy amateur picture taken on your mobile phone and dumped on Facebook or instagram . Go into a photo studio and say cheese! Or better still valentine.

Don't tell anyone, the camera doesn't even work.

The most expensive and valuable thing about this gift is the wrapper

       Give a Valentine Gift . A well packaged gift that fits into your partner’s life. What matters most about a gift is its usability and how it fits into your partner’s life at the moment. That said, cakes might fit into your partner’s recent sugar cravings and it’s use is pretty obvious. It is best to give 9 special gifts at different times of the day. The more the gifts hit the mark of usability and need, the more points you score on the invisible scale of love on a valentine’s day.

          Tuck your partner in at night with a phone call, recounting the events of the day and giving all appreciation for the effort in making the valentine day special, even if it wasn't  You have to credit your partner for the effort. That is all that counts.

Now i have to thank him for that boring date 

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VALENTINE DAY FOR SINGLES

Valentine for the lonely.

It’s valentine’s day and you know your phone isn’t going to ring with someone on the other end, professing love for you. You know  there are no dates fixed. Nothing! And you really give a hoot about the day. Then plan your day yourself with the following do it yourself  tips, valentine’s day edition.

1.Wake up and dance to your favorite love songs.                

2. Read a love story, watch love films. It doesn't matter if you have seen them before, just go on and watch them again and again.

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3. Find out where a valentine party  or program is going on and invite yourself to it. 

Eating out might be a bad idea because you would probably be the only one without an accomplice and it would look a bit weird at least the other guests and waiters would try to do that. They waiters would ask, are you the only one?, are you expecting someone? Or some other more decent way of rubbing it in your face that you came out to dine  in a restaurant alone. Invite yourself to the valentine party or program, you might even meet someone but don’t go with that intention. Your goal for the day is to  have maximum fun not get stuck with any one.

4.Get yourself to do those things you love doing.

 In some cases it just might be sleeping. Just do it!

5. Bury yourself in your work, and pretend you don’t give a hoot!
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6. And if you really give a hoot, then hire a date,for all you know it may be the weird IT guy in the back office, and he would have some stupid enough stories to tell to make you laugh. Or the lonely lady in the next office , or the girl who clearly has no one . Tell your friends, it is not that difficult to get someone to go out with you on a date that would lead nowhere.

You have to understand that there is nothing wrong with being alone. At some point in your life, you have to be alone to get certain things done and there is nothing wrong in having nothing planned for valentine and hating it for the hype it brings.

what am i getting myself into?

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THE STORY OF VALENTINE

Valentine’s day is here again . A day specially made for lovers , so to speak. Recently people in Pakistan protested against the celebration of valentine’s day. Yes ! they did, it is kind of weird. The story behind valentine’s day is a one of courage, strength , perseverance until the point of death. It is a story that inspires us all to live for something so that when we are gone, we would be remembered for something. Not protesting obviously .There was a priest by the name of Valentine. He lived in Rome about 250 AD. That was a long, long time ago!

At that time, Rome was ruled by an emperor by the name of Claudius. Some people called him Claudius the Cruel. St. Valentine didn't like Emperor Claudius, and he wasn’t the only one! A lot of people felt the same way. Claudius wanted a big army. He thought men should volunteer to join. Many men just did not want

to fight in wars. They did not want to leave their wives and girlfriends. So, not many men signed up to fight. 

This made Claudius mad. So do you know what he did? He had a crazy idea that if men were not married, they would not mind joining his army. So Claudius decided not to allow any more marriages. Young people thought his new law was really cruel. Valentine thought it was ridiculous! One of his favorite jobs as a priest

was to marry people. Well after Emperor Claudius passed his law, he kept on performing marriage ceremonies– but secretly. He would whisper the words of the ceremony, while listening for soldiers on the steps outside.
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One night, he did hear footsteps. The couple he was marrying escaped, but he was caught He was thrown in jail and told that his punishment was death. St. Valentine tried to stay cheerful. And do you know what happened? Many young people came to the jail to visit him. They threw flowers and notes up to his window.

They wanted him to know that they, too, believed in love. One of these young people was the daughter of the prison guard. Her father allowed her to visit him in his cell. They often sat and talked for

hours. 

She believed he did the right thing by ignoring the Emperor and performing marriage ceremonies. On the day he was to die, he left her a note thanking her for her friendship and loyalty. He signed it, “Love from your Valentine.”

That note started the custom of exchanging love notes on Valentine’s Day. It was written on the day he died, February 14, 269 A.D. Now, every year on this day, people remember. But most importantly, they think about love and friendship. And when they think of Emperor Claudius, they remember how he tried to stand in the way of love, and they laugh -- because they know that love can’t be beaten!

And that is why years later we still have valentine, we still fall in love and get married.  Happy Valentine’s day.

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